Change
I want to talk about CHANGE today. Why it is scary. Why people hate it. But why it is GOOD!
I am a creature of habit... aren't we all? Of course! That is human nature, and it is ok. But sometimes, habit can hinder our development... and we definitely don't want to do that. I want to tell you a little about why change scared me and why I hated it. Maybe you will be able to relate and then I want to tell you how I made changes and how they were NOT scary but that they were good.
All of my life, I knew I wanted to be a mom. When I became pregnant with our oldest, I was excited (and nervous) about the changes. But that day came when I was induced and even though my entire pregnancy I wanted to meet him, I was scared. I didn't want that change to come. I couldn't anticipate what it was going to be like. Then he came into our lives, and our lives were changed forever. The same with our second. I wanted him so badly to make his appearance, but when he did, I panicked!! What were we THINKING having a second child?! How were we ever going to adapt and change with this new little human?! Of course, life moved on and those two little changes, though they were so scary and intimidating... I couldn't imagine my life without.
Change is good.
Six years ago my husband and I purchased a restaurant... 1000 miles from our home. For two years, he commuted monthly to show face there and put out fires, etc. For two years, we talked about moving. "But, we just built our dream house.... in my home town.... near everyone I knew and loved.... I can't MOVE!!!!" Every single time he brought up the topic, I refused to have any serious conversation about it. I knew that it would inevitably happen. And in my heart, I had always been a Florida girl. But like I said, I could not leave everything I knew. That change was too scary to think about. I hated the idea of it. My marriage was suffering, I was depressed, over weight, and absolutely hated the northern winters. But I'd be damned if I were going to move. Well, we moved. Four years ago to be exact. I fought it tooth and nail up until the moving truck came. I cried. A lot. How was I ever going to make new friends, or know my way around, or love the new area!? That moving experience was the biggest change I have ever had to make. But you know what? We did it. And that change was AMAZING. I would never go back "home". I love the beach being so close, the warm weather year round, and most importantly... I LOVE MY MARRIAGE AGAIN! We had to lean on each other and that grew a special bond. We worked so hard on CHANGING our ways towards each other. We became more active, spent more time outdoors, and truly savored every moment about getting to know our new changes.
Change is good.
Making the decision to better our health and eat better and workout daily was another favorite change. Did I just say favorite? You bet! I love change now. Yes, it is still scary. And sometimes I still fight it. But I know that whatever that change is, no matter how difficult it may seem... will always be worth it. Making the change to our diets was a struggle, and setting my alarm for 5:30am to get up and workout was a struggle, at the beginning.... always at the beginning. But those little changes over time are so worth it. I am glad I made the changes I have made. I lost weight, I no longer feel depressed and worthless and I love the way my husband looks at me now ;-)
Change is good.
So, this is not a new concept. I get that. But I want you to know, that you are not alone when you feel scared, helpless or angry about the changes in your life. Some are under your control, and some are not. Embrace your changes. Be positive. Have faith that you will one day look back and laugh at yourself for fighting your changes because they end up being some of the best things for you and for your family.
What changes are you facing today?
Change is GOOD.
I am a creature of habit... aren't we all? Of course! That is human nature, and it is ok. But sometimes, habit can hinder our development... and we definitely don't want to do that. I want to tell you a little about why change scared me and why I hated it. Maybe you will be able to relate and then I want to tell you how I made changes and how they were NOT scary but that they were good.
All of my life, I knew I wanted to be a mom. When I became pregnant with our oldest, I was excited (and nervous) about the changes. But that day came when I was induced and even though my entire pregnancy I wanted to meet him, I was scared. I didn't want that change to come. I couldn't anticipate what it was going to be like. Then he came into our lives, and our lives were changed forever. The same with our second. I wanted him so badly to make his appearance, but when he did, I panicked!! What were we THINKING having a second child?! How were we ever going to adapt and change with this new little human?! Of course, life moved on and those two little changes, though they were so scary and intimidating... I couldn't imagine my life without.
Change is good.
Six years ago my husband and I purchased a restaurant... 1000 miles from our home. For two years, he commuted monthly to show face there and put out fires, etc. For two years, we talked about moving. "But, we just built our dream house.... in my home town.... near everyone I knew and loved.... I can't MOVE!!!!" Every single time he brought up the topic, I refused to have any serious conversation about it. I knew that it would inevitably happen. And in my heart, I had always been a Florida girl. But like I said, I could not leave everything I knew. That change was too scary to think about. I hated the idea of it. My marriage was suffering, I was depressed, over weight, and absolutely hated the northern winters. But I'd be damned if I were going to move. Well, we moved. Four years ago to be exact. I fought it tooth and nail up until the moving truck came. I cried. A lot. How was I ever going to make new friends, or know my way around, or love the new area!? That moving experience was the biggest change I have ever had to make. But you know what? We did it. And that change was AMAZING. I would never go back "home". I love the beach being so close, the warm weather year round, and most importantly... I LOVE MY MARRIAGE AGAIN! We had to lean on each other and that grew a special bond. We worked so hard on CHANGING our ways towards each other. We became more active, spent more time outdoors, and truly savored every moment about getting to know our new changes.
Change is good.
Making the decision to better our health and eat better and workout daily was another favorite change. Did I just say favorite? You bet! I love change now. Yes, it is still scary. And sometimes I still fight it. But I know that whatever that change is, no matter how difficult it may seem... will always be worth it. Making the change to our diets was a struggle, and setting my alarm for 5:30am to get up and workout was a struggle, at the beginning.... always at the beginning. But those little changes over time are so worth it. I am glad I made the changes I have made. I lost weight, I no longer feel depressed and worthless and I love the way my husband looks at me now ;-)
Change is good.
So, this is not a new concept. I get that. But I want you to know, that you are not alone when you feel scared, helpless or angry about the changes in your life. Some are under your control, and some are not. Embrace your changes. Be positive. Have faith that you will one day look back and laugh at yourself for fighting your changes because they end up being some of the best things for you and for your family.
What changes are you facing today?
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